Life; its not about right or wrong, or love, its about reality:)

As I surf over the posts on this forum it revels many common themes concerning our marriages, our spouses and us...I just want to address one that seems common to us all....And it's our feelings about the blind spots (emotional abandonment) our spouses have concerning us...It seems based on your comments and rants, along with my life experience's this is very common among us....

So, lets look at a few things we all can agree on as the problems...Based on the information in these forums and again in my experiences, lets try to ask some questions that can help us....

1) We must start with a few questions: Is my spouse capable of doing any different, or maybe a better way to say this is; has my spouse demonstrated the ability see life as I do? Does my spouse show feelings of remorse when I share my heart and needs, but revert right back to a mind that shows it's obvious he/she is incapable or unwilling to change their view of life for an extended period? Based on the years we've shared life with them, we can answer this honestly if we choose to...

2) Next question is am I willing to continue in this marriage? If, yes, then am I willing to continue ranting, talking to myself, counting myself as a victim at their mercy. All because the person I married isn't capable or is unwilling of meeting my needs and fulfilling their promise to do so? 

3) Or can I accept this isn't ever going to change, it's just who they are and accept them as such?

4) Next Question: Am I capable of completely turning inward for my own peace, my own accountability regardless of the circumstances around me...Can I escape my (my mindset) desire to force my will for a beautiful marriage of sharing and responsibility? Am I capable of acceptance of life that I would not choose for myself, but seems to have found me? Can I daily live this life I wouldn't choose and not count myself as a victim?  Am I capable of a peaceful existence with a heart of thankfulness for each new day, I'm afforded? Can I count my blessings, or am I doomed to a mind that will always find a way cry out it's your fault?

5) I choose the more excellent way:) How about you?