I have come to the conclusion, at least with my ADHD husband, that it's either accept him just like it is, or walk away. He is not going to change, I think that is the bottom line with adhd, you decide that you either accept things how they are or you don't and walk away. You have to let go of expectations. In my marriage, my husband's pros are that he is very supportive of me and what I do, he is affectionate and he wants to do better and in his own slow progress he does try a little.He will do what I ask him to do, pretty consistantly.  On the cons, he procrastinates, avoids responsibility, gets easily distracted and is impulsive and has no follow through. He can not be trusted to take care of the bills. He can hold a job, but the pay is very irregular, and our credit is usually shot from it. Some days I am fine with the way things are and other days I wonder how long I will hold out before I run away screaming. 

Today is an ugh I am so sick of it day....