ADHD Effect Marriage Consulting with Melissa Orlov

Melissa Orlov




Develop personalized strategies for improving
your ADHD-impacted marriage with expert, Melissa Orlov.




Sessions are conducted by phone with both members of a couple.  We will focus on developing specific strategies that each partner can use to improve their daily lives immediately and over the long term.  I will help you and your spouse:

  • understand which key issues in your marriage might be related to ADHD
  • prioritize what to work on first for optimal improvement
  • narrow the communication gap between distinctly different partners
  • learn the specific skills necessary for good communication
  • develop specific, usable and measurable tactics for creating change
  • identify critical personal boundaries and goals
  • help each partner come to terms with his or her role in marital issues and gain the inspiration to change direction
  • create a plan to reach long-term goals for your marriage that align with who you are as individuals
  • gain mutual agreement to those goals
  • effectively identify and track progress
  • locate useful resources as needed

After each session I provide a written conference report outlining the strategies and suggested deadlines, goals or agreements as discussed.

What it is not:

Medical advice.  For medical advice, please see your doctor.

How ADHD Effect Marriage Consulting Works:

While many of the issues facing couples with ADHD are similar, the workings of each partnership are unique.  Some couples will be able to identify key issues and develop a plan they like and can stick to within a short time many while others may need longer and prefer regular “check ins” to monitor progress.  Since this program is personalized, you sign up for and receive only what you need.  My goal is to help you make progress with which you are happy as quickly as is possible, reasonable and sustainable.

Most couples consult with me once a week at first, then move to every other week until they are ready to "graduate."


Services are billed by the hour, with the first 'hour' lasting up to 70 minutes (the time of a typical session).  I provide conference reports at no fee because they are important to getting the process to move smoothly.  This is a special service that other marriage advisors do not provide.

Payments made in advance of services will be given a discount and can be purchased in a minimum of 3 call increments.  You work against hours for which you’ve pre-paid.  Monies remaining in your account will be reimbursed within 4 weeks after your last session.

Do You Have Questions?

I would be happy to talk with you about whether ADHD Effect consulting is right for you.  Just contact me and I’ll get back to you as quickly as I can.

How to Start:

Once you've decided you need my counsel, I will send you the proper paperwork, including “Getting to Know Us” questionnaires that will give me a (non-billed) head start to learning about your personal situation.  At the same time we’ll set up our first meeting or call.

About Melissa Orlov:

Melissa Orlov is one of the top experts in how ADHD affects relationships and has been writing publicly about the topic since 2007.  She first developed her ADHD knowledge working with ADHD guru, Dr. Edward Hallowell, assisting with educational programs delivered by Dr. Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey.  Orlov is the author of two award-winning books on how adult ADHD impacts couples, The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD (with Nancie Kohlenberger), and a contributor to several others, including the first book for therapists on how to counsel couples impacted by ADHD.  She currently blogs for Psychology Today, teaches seminars for couples, therapists and coaches, gives lectures, and writes online at where she advises many thousands of couples.  She has been interviewed about ADHD and marriage by the NY Times, CNN, Today, AOL, US News and World Report, Experience Life and more.

Ms. Orlov has real-life experience with the pain, confusion and exhaustion associated with tackling the issues surrounding ADHD in relationships.  In fact, it was her experiences changing her own marriage from miserable to marvelous – and the realization that there is very little good information available to help couples affected by ADHD thrive in their relationships – that was the inspiration for becoming engrossed in this topic.

Melissa is a graduate of Harvard College cum laude, and Phillips Exeter Academy.  Her hobbies include road biking, learning the cello and travelling.  Ms. Orlov and her husband of 25+ years live outside of Boston.


I am often fully booked, and give counseling priority to couples who have taken my ADHD Effect In-Depth 8-week phone seminar when space allows.  Regardless of whether you work with me or not, I STRONGLY recommend you take the seminar.  Past participants repeatedly tell me the course "is one of the best things they have ever done" and it has really helped them start to address their issues.  Please go to this link for a complete description and registration information.  If you have questions about counseling or the seminar, please feel free to contact me.