I'm brand new to this site and forum. Also, new to the whole adult ADD concept. Thanks to the persistence of my fiancee, I have finally conceded that I have ADD after researching the topic and taking informal tests. I/we have also been reading about how to live with the condition and work to modify behaviors. My big challenges that are irritating her and stressing our relationship is my impulsiveness when speaking. I tend to interrupt her frequently and I often speak in fragments before organizing my thoughts. This makes my communication hard for her to follow. After I promised to address it many times and then not followed through, this has become a real sore spot which manifests in her anger and frustration. I need to learn to pause before I interrupt or share my thoughts.
My other ADD behaviors are present, and I'm learning to manage those, but I'm looking for a way(s) to change this impulsive behavior at/before the moment it happens. The reading I/we have done offers many exercises for behavioral change, but I have not found any to help at the moment it's happening. I feel an urgency to change my behavior — not just for her, but for myself and all those around me who have perhaps courteously kept quiet for many years. Another important detail is that I'm 62 and she's 65, so changing habits is especially difficult at our age. I plan to enroll in the Intent To Action program, which will hopefully provide meaningful results. Has anyone experienced this issue and do you have any tips?
