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Anyone Here, familiar with the posted relational wariness of ADH9er & I'm so exhausted, willing to offer their impartial, outside-looking-in observation of our dizzying flatlining cycle ?  (Your honesty and 'shorter winded-ness' would be much appreciated by the guy asking the question) Thanks

I'm so overwhelmed I don't know where to begin. My husband and I have been married for 3 years in July. When we first started dating, he was only concerned about himself and didn't give any thought or consideration to me or to his kids. From day 1 I became the caretaker to his children taking them to school and back since I had a car. Giving baths, doing homework etc. on top of taking care of my own priorities and job (he didn't work when we met).

I'm,not sure if this man's name has been brought up before, but I've been watching many  videos on YouTube, that are truly some of the most informative and engaging videos I've EVER seen on the subject of AdHD. He is knowledgeable and seems to  understand just about everything there is to know about ADHD and co-morbidity. He is Dr. RUSSELL BARKLEY, and he has many videos available.

      There is one especially good on "The importance of emotion in ADHD. I hope you guys check them out, and let me know what you think.

Dede

Can it happen in less than a year?  Or is it a multi-year thing?

Feeling isolated while dealing with ADHD partners' mood swings and game-changes

Does the hyper-focus courtship phase really end at 20-24 months?

My husband will not talk about his ADHD at all and seems to believe that taking medicine is the cure all. He is ashamed of his diagnoses, and I believe that prevents him from being able to even acknowledge how it affects his and our lives. It's been two years and after minimal adjustment of his meds, he thinks he is fine but really all it is doing is giving him more focus at work and tempering his moods somewhat.

I just wanted to take a moment to give kudos and praise to ALL the folks on this site that are working so hard and diligently to better their lives, and the lives of their spouses and families.

     A special thanks to the men on here as well, who are loving their wives. (J, Curself, Adhd'er and others.....) I am also amazed by the strength and fortitude of many of the women here who have done incredible things, while taking themselves to the very limits of their abilities, yet they press on. 

Hi!  I'm a husband who is totally new to posting comments on a web site forum.  I'm here because my marriage is in crisis.

ADHD hubby has sick BFF. He wants to adopt BFF's teenage daughter. He has strong feelings of wanting to help and i have none.