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How do you handle ADHD partners RSD moments. My partner has very severe RSD reactions to very minor things which would not effect someone without RSD. They get very emotional, angry, mean and although the majority of the time I haven't done anything I end up having to apologise. 
 

The episodes are getting more frequent. And I find it very difficult to cope with. They wouldn't speak to anyone else in the manner they speak to me. It's like RSD means they can behave how they like and it's ok because it's an RSD outburst. 
 

I am being accused of being abusive and have been ghosted by my wife and am going through a divorce without having ever been tod there was even an issue this large. It is quite hard to be called abusive when I know I have a giant heart and most of the symptoms driving the accusations are related to my ADHD. 

... he sincerely doesnt think that his actions should be reflective of his feelings towards me.

Guys, I'm looking for support and help from both nons and those with ADHD on the site. It's been a tough few days. Hurt feelings, rage, resentment and more. I know I don't want to be in a marriage like this, I deserve better....but when the DX has happened within the year and we haven't found our footing but dang, it's really taken hold, what can be done besides working on myself. 

What do I do? :-( 

Recently there's been debate on the forum on whether it's irresponsible to carry on with problem-ridden ADHD-non marriages. When it's hard, should we just end things?

I'm currently in a marriage of ten years that has been gradually going downhill for the past 8 years.  My wife and I got together when we both had young kids from previous marriages, and I feel like we did a great job of raising a stepfamily despite all of those challenges that come with being a stepfamily. Now, two of our three kids are off in college and the youngest (my stepson) is 16.  So, he hardly needs (or wants) our continual attention, but he does need care like any kid. 

I'm reading a lot of comments on here which hit someone with ADHD really hard.

My husband has ADHD.  Yesterday it turned out again that he forgot to turn off the auto-renewal of the unnecessary service, and a sum of money was deducted from us just like that.  Because it ignores warning messages.  I was on nerves all day yesterday.  Today I was involved in a traffic accident.  And it turned out that my husband mixed up the dates and we don’t have car insurance for this week.  We'll have to pay for the repairs yourself.  This has been going on for many years.  He doesn't exercise, he doesn't meditate, he doesn't take any obvious steps to work with his ADHD.  At the same