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For our 10 year relationship I have been accused of lying and cheating and I can't take it any more. 

Looking for tactical and practical tips/suggestions and resources on when you can tell a kid is affected by their ADHD parent 

Grieving and trying to understand what's happened in my recently ended marriage to an ADD partner. I don't think I've seen discussions specifically on relationship repair and ADD and wonder what experiences others have with this.

I've always felt that solving of conflict or unhappiness in the relationship was highest priority. To reach out, talk, exchange perspectives and find common ground was imperative. I wouldn't rest until we could reconnect.

I've been visiting this forum for a few years now ever since I realised that my husband must have ADHD - some of his family are diagnosed; he isn't and we can't financially afford a diagnosis at the moment. I read about ADHD to help us both but he doesn't do any research on his own. He thinks he has ADHD too; he had a school-teacher who mentioned to his mother that he most probably has it as well as his (out of control) diagnosed brother.

Can we re-build a relationship when separated? 

I'm a 52 year old man, diagnosed a week ago, on my second day of medication. Obviously that's a mixed outcome, it's great news, very late. After a lifetime of struggles to achieve what I thought I should achieve in school and in my career, I have some explanation. I went from a college dropout to a honors graduate of a top law school, there were failures and struggles, but real successes too, it's just I needed to be interested (and it really helped in law school that I needed to focus and produce for only 3 hours per class at the end of each semester).

Been married many years. Wife has probably alway been a little like she is but, I think menopause also, its become more pronounced. Anyway, she got diagnosed and its on medication.

I try to be understanding but I have a hard time. Few of the things below. Want to ask really is this "normal" for someone with ADHD and how should I react.

1. She has other illnesses but still works and its not an easy job. BUT she'll come home and won't stop even if it makes her ill. I just don't get this - why not just sit down and chill a bit but she won't.

I posted in the midst of great frustration last night, which is something that I try to avoid, so I am going to delete this.  

So I am at a very hard and difficult place in my life. We are not married but have been together for 4 years. It's to the point where I have been in and out of counseling for years after being diagnosed. I really never took it seriously that I was the majority of the problem because of my ADD symptoms. I finally am very serious about my treatment as it being a non negotiable for her in our relationship. Well now we are not in a relationship but are still living together due to our son. He is from her previous marriage . He is my son and I don"t care what anyone thinks he is mine.