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I have come to accept that dh has not been really talking to me for decades.  He has given me "yups" and "nopes" and one word answers to my questions.  He lies 50% of the time just to get me to stop trying to "pry" into his secret world. He walks away from discussions. The only communication he wants from me is sex or play. I have been very lonely in my marriage.  It used to lead me to believe he must be doing SOMETHING with his emotions SOMEWHERE and with SOMEONE because who lives like that?  Totally unconcerned or not wanting ANY connection?  

Quick summary:

Early on in marriage, lost job. Not because of ADHD, but because market tanked in recession and had to move. Wife didn't want to move but we had to in order to survive.

Since she didn't like area, I spent more time trying to fix situation and not paying attention to my wife. We finally moved again. Made another job change to defense contractor and that went under two weeks before son was born. Luckily had a back-up and was unemployed for 5 min.

UPDATE 6/24/2014 - see update below

I am the non-ADD spouse. Our family has had pets over the years and I am always the main caretaker. A few years ago my husband decided that our family needed a fish tank. He spent a couple thousand dollars on all of the supplies and fish. I was not happy about the purchase for several reasons 1) expense and 2) maintenance - who is going to take care of it - I refused  to do anything for the fish.  My husband assured me that he would take care of the tank which he did for about 3 months.

Every time i try to spend time with my kids and mother he gets upset or mad or controlling!

So, I have a horrible memory.  I'm not sure if it comes with the ADHD, or if it is something else, but I've always been perplexed when other people get angry or frustrated with me for forgetting something... when I forget something, it's not because I don't find it important- I forget important, trivial, long term, and short term stuff seemingly at random, so despite trying my best, stuff slips my mind.  So I try my best not to let people down, but I get sad and confused when other people get angry at me anyway.

I am in the non-ADD spouse. I do all of the finances in our household. My husband was tired of all the fights we would have when I would see charges on our family credit card and I had no idea of what they are. Before I pay the bill, I would question him about the charges and it would start a huge argument about why he needed to make the purchases to begin with. Somehow in our couples counseling we came up with the "bright idea" for my husband to get his own credit card and checking account to manage and pay himself.  I can't believe I agreed to this!

I am new to this; therefore, I am really sorry if this topic has been already covered. However, I had no where else to go and talk about it and the things are just getting worse... 

a.k.a.: What to Expect when You Expect to Be Expecting

Hey all,

Hey everyone... I had to post this here because I think this may be the only place anyone understands what I'm going thru. My ADHD husband is H-O-R-R-I-B-L-E with money, like many ADDers, but has resisted most attempts on my part to "help" him. He's curbed his huge spending sprees, but still spends about 2x the amount budgeted for him.

My husband has agreed to get an ADHD eval.  We live in the Philly area and I believe we have a number of great resources in this area.  I have a few questions: