Last week I wrote about lies and cover ups and creating a safe place to be honest. Part of that honesty is being able to talk about your own concerns and questions, be that feeling badly or ashamed you did something, to wondering if you’ll ever get it right, to…you name it.
Healthy relationships are those in which partners can voice their fears as well as their triumphs, their most miserable feelings as well as their best. As partners on either side of the ADHD/non-ADHD partnership (or ADHD/ADHD) we need to make it our job to ensure our own behaviors create a safe space for our partner.
And, because I always say this – I’m not talking about getting walked all over. As an example, if your partner is verbally abusing you, then it makes sense to get professional help…which is a ‘safe space’ approach to dealing with conflict, rather than either retreating or fighting back.
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including free:
- Online treatment overview;
- Downloadable chapters of my books;
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships.