ADHD & Marriage News - January 10, 2018

Quote of the Week

“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable."

- Brene Brown


Last week I wrote about lies and cover ups and creating a safe place to be honest.  Part of that honesty is being able to talk about your own concerns and questions, be that feeling badly or ashamed you did something, to wondering if you’ll ever get it right, to…you name it.

Healthy relationships are those in which partners can voice their fears as well as their triumphs, their most miserable feelings as well as their best.  As partners on either side of the ADHD/non-ADHD partnership (or ADHD/ADHD) we need to make it our job to ensure our own behaviors create a safe space for our partner.

And, because I always say this – I’m not talking about getting walked all over.  As an example, if your partner is verbally abusing you, then it makes sense to get professional help…which is a ‘safe space’ approach to dealing with conflict, rather than either retreating or fighting back.  


Get your relationship back on track - register for the January couples tele-seminar and the Tele-coaching groups for ADHD and non-ADHD adults going on now! 

For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at, including free:

  • -   Online treatment overview;

    -   Downloadable chapters of my books;

    -   A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;

      -   A large number of blog posts on various topics;

      -   Referrals.

Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships.

Is your relationship in pretty good shape but you'd love to feel closer? Consider my self-study seminar Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship.

Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. can literally change your life!  Question? Contact Melissa.

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