“Intimacy happens when one person shares and the other person shares it back.”
I love this idea! Because it’s all about ‘being seen’ in your relationship. To me, ‘share it back’ means:
Your partner listens to what you have to say, without fractured attention
Your partner is curious about your experience
Your partner respects what you want from the interaction – do you want ideas? Just to vent? Help? (Note: I’m a BIG believer in stating what you want up front. Saying “I just need to vent” or “Could you help me work through this?” helps you have a more satisfying interaction. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind!)
Intimacy isn’t just about sex and physical touch. It’s also about emotional touch, and engaging with your partner’s emotions is one of the most intimate things you can do.
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