One of the very difficult dynamics in relationships impacted by ADHD are those around emotional dysregulation in both partners.  If you fear how your partner will respond, then you start revising how you approach that partner – distorting your ability to express your feelings and needs.  After years of this, you may feel as if you have lost yourself in your relationship when, really, what you may be is co-dependent.  You’ve put someone else’s responses ahead of your own needs.

I’m talking about a chronic condition, not about daily gifts of caring you might give to your partner.  Co-dependency is about avoidance of asserting your needs to appease another or avoid conflict, and about supporting behaviors (such as alcoholism, addictions or physical abuse).  Giving the gift of love is about getting your needs met AND being able to do special (healthy) things for your partner because you care.

If you wish to explore co-dependency more, try Melody Beatty’s The New Co-Dependency or try reading a good book on creating better boundaries, such as Boundary Boss by Teri Cole (one of my favorite books for couples impacted by ADHD.)

NEWS and EVENTS:

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ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? My highly acclaimed 8-session Zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The next live session STARTS January 11, 2023.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group - Be part of a community exploring similar issues, successes and struggles and find new, effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

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How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD; 

Downloadable chapters of my books;

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A large number of blog posts on various topics;

Referrals.

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