Free Choice

ADHD & Marriage News - March 10, 2022

Quote of the Week

“Knowing that we can live without someone does not mean we have to live without that person, but it may free us to love and live in ways that work”

- Melodie Beatty

Free Choice

Factually, most of us could live without our significant others (once the pain of initiating that passed).  Which is not to say we want to, only that we could.  Beatty suggests that admitting this can free us to make decisions that better align us with what we really want.

Not to get morbid, but it’s a bit like grappling with death.  Death is a part of life, and once you accept that, you may feel freer to make your best choices today – after all, some day you will die…why wait?

I think this is what Beatty is trying to convey here.  Internalizing that staying with our partner is always a choice compels us to think more carefully about finding joy today, right now.  We make this choice…we therefore have a responsibility to make the most of that choice.

Or…we feel trapped and that ‘knowledge’ leads to despair, depression and loss.  This is when the relationship becomes more important than the individuals in it, which almost always results in an unhealthy relationship.

Would accept that staying is a choice you make everyday help you be more positive with your partner?




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