“We don’t rise to meet our expectations; we fall to our level of training.”
I talk in my couples seminar about specific types of interactions that help support couples impacted by ADHD. I teach how to set up a good verbal cue (one of my favorite tools!); how to use a learning conversation to discuss tricky emotional topics; what a conflict intimacy conversation can do to help build connection; how to give a meaningful apology.
Couples usually do better when they take advantage of these tools. But they are tools – and in order to improve with them, we must practice them. I see the results in my practice – those couples who become more comfortable with, and adept at, using these sorts of interactions not only stumble less often, but recover much more quickly if there is an issue.
I urge you to embrace the tools that can improve your relationship – and train yourselves in using them effectively so that you can, indeed, rise to meet your expectations.
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