Inside an ADHD Brain

ADHD & Marriage News - January 13, 2026

Quote of the Week

“Unless you’re inside an ADHD brain, it’s hard to fathom how much it dominates your life."

- Linda Roggli

Roggli wouldn’t put it this way, but I will. Non-ADHD partners have no clue how hard it can be to manage an ADHD brain! Here are just a few descriptions from ADHD adults about what it’s like to have that mind:

• Like popcorn popping in my head all the time

• Like having 59 TVs blaring in my head all at once.

• Like having faulty windshield wipers on your car – sometimes you can see clearly, but often it’s a real blur

• Like having the Library of Congress in your head with no card catalogue.

These quotes speak to (in order) the speed, noisiness, inconsistency/obstruction, and lack of order of the ADHD brain. Now take a moment and imagine what it would be like to write a research paper if your brain was filled with TONS of information, only some of which was relevant, and you had to find just the right information in ‘the Library of Congress with no card catalogue!’

The more I work with adults with ADHD, the more I admire their willingness to manage their ADHD brains – creating systems that work for them. And the good news is that research strongly supports the claim that those who really work to optimize their ADHD treatment CAN manage their ADHD brains. But to non-ADHD partners out there – remember that it is about ‘management’ not ‘cure.’ So it takes extra effort and time to be productive.

If you’ve ever wondered why it takes an ADHD partner longer to do the same thing…now you know.

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Join a community exploring similar issues, learn from each other's successes & struggles and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!

i2a Foundation Courses - New! These courses bring together the core concepts, tools, and practices that help ADHD-impacted couples move out of distance and reactivity and into improved teamwork and connection. The i2a Foundation Courses offer a shared starting point—and a steady path forward. Exclusive to Intent To Action, and free for members, join us today for reliable support for your relationship to thrive!

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

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