ADHD & Marriage News - October 8, 2020

Quote of the Week

“Even though my brain doesn’t do calculations very well, it does other things really well, such as be creative.”

-A young woman I know with dyscalculia and ADHD


Learning disorders and ADHD can lead to teasing from other kids at school, or comments that encourage low self-esteem.  “Why can’t you multiple 4 x 5?  What are you, stupid?!” does not make a fourth grader feel good about herself and be a blow to self-esteem.

That’s where knowing your strengths comes in.  Everyone is ‘lopsided’ – we all have some things we do better than others.  People with ADHD can be particularly lopsided if their symptoms are under-managed.  But we all have things we do well and that can make us proud.

For this young woman, it is ANYTHING creative, plus exploring the world.  For my husband it’s everything technical.  For me it is synthesizing information.  For another person I know it’s playing the drums.

We should ALL be identifying our strengths and be ready to remember we have them any time someone attacks one of those vulnerable, we-don’t-do-that-so-well places.

What are your strengths?  Your partner’s?


October is ADHD Month - Check out these Free resources:

Free VIRTUAL OFFICE HOURS with Melissa to support you during the COVID-19 crisis. 

Monday, Oct. 12:  7 - 8:30pm eastern

Office hours will start up again the week of 10/26

11th Annual ADHD Awareness Expo. October 1 - 31, My presentation: You and Your Partner Are Much More Different Than You Think!

TADD Talks - October 1 - 31, 18 minute presentations on a variety of ADHD subjects.

34th Annual ADHD Conference - November  5 - 7, online this year. Top ADHD experts and opportunity for Q & A. 

For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. can literally change your life! Find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD including free: Online treatment overview; Downloadable chapters of my books; A community forum with other couples facing similar issues; A large number of blog posts on various topics; Referrals.


Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships.

Support Tele-groups - Be part of a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship: Non ADHD Partner Support Tele-group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group.

How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD - go to the home page for a free download about the best ways to manage ADHD.

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