“We have a collective story about how romantic love is supposed to work, and it’s a pretty straightforward one. It goes something like this: If it lasts, then it’s real. If it doesn’t, then it wasn’t. Either that, or someone screwed it up really badly."
- Katherine Woodward Thomas
Nope – it’s not that simple. Sometimes real love dies even when both partners are trying really hard. And maybe no one screwed up. I’ve seen couples: grow apart; be unable to manage the stresses and surprises of being parents; be crippled by financial stress; give in to family of origin pressure; succumb to ADHD symptoms and responses to symptoms.
Their inability to stay together wasn’t a screw up. And it wasn’t because they didn’t love each other. Sometimes, like in the case of many with ADHD issues, they had a problem and didn’t know about the tools that could help them overcome the stressors and hopelessness they felt.
Don’t let lack of knowledge contribute to the demise of your relationship if ADHD is a factor in your struggles. My adhdmarriage.com website has many great resources and information to support you…and I’m always available for questions. You don’t need to do this alone.
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including free:
- Online treatment overview;
- Downloadable chapters of my books;
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
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