“The true work of ‘self-care’ is recognizing you are the only one who can give yourself permission to take back your time and energy.”
- Dr. Pooia Lakshmin, M.D. Currently writing The Tyranny of Self-Care
Real Self Care
“When I say self-care, I’m not talking about planning a spa day or getting a mani-pedi. I mean giving yourself plenty of space and support.”
-Terri Cole, Author of Boundary Boss: The essential guide to talk true, be seen, and (finally) live free
I’ve been giving a lot of thought lately to the idea of self-care, in part because I don’t particularly go for spa days (too expensive!!). But also because as I age I see just how important it is to take care of oneself physically and mentally. This idea of giving oneself space and support turns out to be quite effective.
Here’s what I’ve been doing on the physical side of things: getting plenty of outdoor time, riding bikes, hiking, walking and even eating outdoors; slowing down my weekends to include less scheduled time (I still have more to do than I need!); saving time for some fun art and music projects; taking the time to eat plenty of healthy food.
On the mental health side of things, I’ve been talking with a professional, spending lots of time with family and friends, and watching far less violent tv.
Dr. Ned Hallowell likes to talk about ‘the other Vitamin C – connection’ and I agree with him. My life, with all of this slowing down and connecting with others, feels far more balanced and vibrant than it did before I started overtly giving myself time and space to nurture that which is important to me.
Are you giving yourself – and your partner – enough space for self-care?
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