On Focus…

ADHD & Marriage News - December 1, 2022

Quote of the Week

This week, the quotes are the tip and are included below.


On Focus....

I heard these two quotes in a podcast and thought they provide excellent food for thought.

“You can only follow one or two things at a time.  We think we can do six or seven.  But our brain is actually switching back and forth really, really rapidly.  When we do this, we perform our tasks much less competently.  It looks like a small effect, but when I looked at the evidence, I was amazed at how big an effect it is.  If you are interrupted, it takes you on average 23 minutes to get back to the level of focus you had before you were interrupted.  But most of us never get 23 minutes, so we are constantly working at this diminished level.  If you get text messages, it diminishes your brain power for the main thing you are trying to focus on by 30%.  That’s a staggering amount of brain power and attention that most of us are hemorrhaging most of the time… Tech is designed to hack our attention.  It arrived at a moment when our attentional immune systems were already compromised.  We now live in an attentionally pathogenic culture …”


“We sleep 20% less than we did 100 years ago.  You can appear to be awake and functioning but whole parts of your brain are asleep.  Being half asleep turns out to not be a metaphor….”

-Johann Hari, “Stolen Focus”



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