ADHD & Marriage News - October 26, 2022

Quote of the Week

“Ask yourself is it a tragedy or an inconvenience.”

- Dr. Ellen Langer


It’s hard living with another person, almost by definition.  And so, there are lots of things that seem, well, annoying.  In ADHD-impacted relationships, the repetitive nature of symptomatic issues…and the hurt that symptoms and responses to symptoms can create – may make living together even harder, moving from annoying to painful.

One way to address this is to focus first on addressing the things that are really, truly important to you.  Things that you absolutely, positively must have in order for you to feel you are living a life you want to live.  (To not have that would be a tragedy.). For many people the ‘must haves’ include things such as making sure you feel loved and safe, taking care of loved ones, and treating each other with respect. 

Once you’ve identified what’s really important, it’s easier to see what’s an inconvenience – perhaps that includes dishes stacked by the sink; getting somewhere on time; differences in opinion about your favorite hobbies; how much time you spend at work.

When you encounter something that is annoying, label it as such and remind yourself that it will pass.

What are your ‘absolutely, positively must haves’?  And can they help you learn what you can let go?



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For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

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