“We need to recognize life-cycle events like moving out of a home or children going off to college or retirement. We don’t approach those elements of our lives ritualistically, but we should.”
-Rabbi Bob Alper
Life Cycle Issues
One of the trickiest parts of the life cycle of a marriage is the introduction of children into the family. For some reason we do a great job at telling people about the wonder, and a really terrible job of preparing them for how physically and emotionally demanding it will be.
Tons of hormones and possibly post-partum depression issues. Lack of sleep (which exacerbates ADHD symptoms and crankiness in both partners.) A sudden shift in the dynamics of the relationship (how many men have felt left out of the mother/child relationship, and miss their wives when they have less time for their partner?) For many, there are new financial pressures, too.
The broader community knows about these issues – we just don’t talk about it enough.
Perhaps it is time to create your own pre-baby ritual. Get some friends and family to ‘straight talk’ about the speed bumps they encountered when their children were born. And perhaps spend some time with your partner – celebrating your last moments as a twosome for the next 2 decades. The celebration will be worth it.
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