“In an achievement-oriented culture, we often feel ashamed if we can’t handle exorbitant amounts of pressure, because it seems like everyone else can. We think there must be some problem with us, and we keep quiet about it."
- Aviva Romm, MD
Too Much Pressure
Stress impacts us all. For ADHD partners it makes symptoms worse. For non-ADHD partners, it makes patience and empathy hard to find. It’s exhausting and emotionally draining. And yet, we ‘accept stress’ with phrases such as “I’m not in control – this is how it’s done” and “I would like to have less stress in my life, but there’s just too much to do!”
I’m here to tell you that for most of us this is simply not true. Once your basic needs are met, you do have some options for reducing stress. Here are just a few tactics:
• Times during the day without electronic connections
• Learn to say “no” when others ask you to add to your obligations
• Meditate and exercise
• Ruthlessly cull your ‘to do’ list
• Set time aside for people and relationships, rather than chores
• Hold your partner at the end of the day (or beginning)
• Say ‘thank you’ and ‘I love you’ regularly
What stress could you eliminate?
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For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including free:
- Online treatment overview;
- Downloadable chapters of my books;
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
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