“People forget what you say and they forget what you do, but they never forget how you make them feel.”
How You Make Them Feel
I tell people “choose people over stuff” and I mean it in exactly the way Angelou wrote about it. How you make people feel – your partner, your kids, your extended family and friends…THAT is what people will remember.
What does this mean? It means connecting beyond mere words. Engaging emotionally. It means leaving some stuff undone. It might mean, as it has in my own family, changing around your work schedules a bit to spend more time with family (both my husband and I have now done this).
For those with ADHD, the gift of attention – and specifically attention that connects you to others rather than just doing something together – is particularly tricky. Those whom I’ve observed have been most successful are those who teach themselves to drop what they are doing when an opportunity to connect with their partner and children comes along, and those who learn to listen well.
Could you improve your connections by doing the same?
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