“If you distrust the people around you because you think they have bad values or are out to hurt you, then you are going to be slow to reach out to solve common problems. Your problems will have a tendency to get worse, which seems to justify and then magnify your distrust. You have entered a distrust doom loop.”
- David Brooks
The Distrust Doom Loop
Bad things, reinforced, get worse. Good things, reinforced, get better. Pretty straightforward as a concept, and yet when it comes to our relationships, we regularly forget it.
Take responsibility for your part, and respectfully reach out to your partner to solve common problems. Don’t hide. Don’t berate. Don’t control.
And make sure to work on your own issues that contribute to distrust, too. That probably includes optimizing ADHD management as well as moving away from parent/child dynamics.
Are you in a distrust doom loop?
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