“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”
If I have one regret about my past, it is that I spent way too much time trying to improve my world (and my husband’s role in it) and not enough time savoring my days. This is understandable – some days I felt I was barely holding things together, and my time with my husband could be very hard. It didn’t feel as if there was much to savor.
And yet…once I started thinking with gratitude and seeking things for which I could be thankful I realized that when you are frustrated and angry it obscures the good that is actually also present in your life. You focus on the hard stuff and forget there is also good.
I strongly recommend taking 3-5 minutes each day to focus just on the good stuff. What are you grateful for? It can make your whole day feel (and be) different.
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