“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Two Sides of Things
Ned Hallowell talks about the mirror traits of ADHD how something that feels negative sometimes can be positive at others. Example: An unfiltered ADHD brain that sees many things at once can be a distraction from a spouse or task that needs doing. Or it can be the basis of outside-the-box and creative thinking.
More examples: Hyperactivity may lead to stress. Or it can be seen as being high energy and lots of fun. Being in the present moment can be about having difficulty planning for the future…or it can be someone who is amazingly responsive to what is happening right now.
A good bit of living with ADHD is about understanding that ADHD traits can be positive when in the right situation, and that looking for the positive helps offset the problems that ADHD also presents.
Are you looking for ADHD thorns or roses? And can you live with the idea that a rose is beautiful in part because it has both?
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