ADHD Advantages

ADHD & Marriage News - August 21, 2019

Quote of the Week

“Actually, we recruit for ADHD characteristics.”

-Military chaplain I recently met

ADHD Advantages

I had the privilege of spending a day with Special Ops personnel and their families recently and was struck by this senior military pastor’s comment about how useful some ADHD characteristics are for what their unit does.  “We look for people who are quick on their feet, who excel under pressure and in high-adrenaline situations, and who can take in a whole lot of information around them all at once.  So we do end up having quite a few soldiers with ADHD.”

These families have special stressors most of the rest of us don’t experience – long deployments that leave only one parent at home and 100% in charge, readjustment upon a soldier’s return, the mental health issues such as PTSD that may come with repeated deployments and combat experience, and the transitions between the ‘band of brothers/sisters’ experiences when in the field vs. the family and spouse. ADHD (which is often undiagnosed) makes things even harder.

I am grateful for the service these men and women provide our country, as well as for the ADHD that helps them serve so well and hope that I will have more opportunities to try to help them navigate the ins and outs of ADHD.

Thank you to any of you reading this who are in, or have been in, the military.


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For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at, including free: Online treatment overview; Downloadable chapters of my books; A community forum with other couples facing similar issues; A large number of blog posts on various topics; Referrals. Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. can literally change your life!  


Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The live session starts October 21, 2019.

Support Tele-groups - Be part of a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship: Non ADHD Partner Support Tele-group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group.

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