“The vast majority of adults with an ADHD nervous system are not overtly hyperactive. They are hyperactive internally.”
-William Dodson, MD
The ADHD Brain
One of the most interesting conversations a person with ADHD can have with his or her partner is about how each partner’s brain functions. Often, the other person’s brain is completely foreign in quite unexpected ways.
And some of the descriptors are wonderful. I’ve heard ‘popcorn brain’ (how descriptive!!); “like having faulty windshield wipers in a rainstorm – sometimes very clear, but often blurry” and “like the Library of Congress with no card catalogue” to name a few.
If you have ADHD, please consider sharing what your brain feels like. If you’re married to someone with ADHD, please ask.
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