“Any upheaval in the universe is terrifying because it so profoundly attacks one’s sense of one’s own reality.”
Upheaval in our relationship ‘universes’ come in many forms. As examples:
One partner decides they don’t wish to put up with disrespectful conversations anymore and leaves the room whenever the other partner escalates into rage
One partner starts to talk about possibly leaving the relationship for the first time
The birth of your first child
The discovery of an emotional or physical affair
For some, the diagnosis of ADHD
The fear and emotional turmoil that these turning points may create do not, however, spell doom for a relationship. In fact, many times they signify opportunity. Boundaries that help one reinforce a sense of self-worth can be empowering and greatly improve a relationship where boundaries are too weak. Openly talking about one’s discontent can begin a much-needed conversation with a counselor. Allowing that it’s hard to add a third being into your relationship can help you create a more mindful approach to new parenthood, etc.
The discovery of an affair, though intensely painful, can cause couples to reassess what they want (or don’t) in their relationship. ADHD…well, knowing ADHD is present creates the opportunity to change so, so much…
Upheaval can be terrifying. As you experience it, I urge you to look for where your opportunities may lie.
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