ADHD & Marriage News - January 27, 2026
Quote of the Week
“An experiment by Tali Sharot, a neuroscientist at University College London, and colleagues showed how the brain becomes inured to the stress or emotional discomfort that happens when we lie, making it easier to tell the next fib…the team found that the amygdala’s response to lies got progressively weaker with each lie…"
- National Geographic, in an article entitled “Why We Lie”
A Safe Place to Make Mistakes
First…we all lie sometimes (even if we think we don’t!) But many with ADHD develop a habit of cover-ups and lies as they move through childhood as a coping strategy for dealing with the embarrassment of not always being pulled together. Covering up and pleasing the authority figure or peer who is depending upon you ‘feels’ better at the time than telling the truth and experiencing the wrath that may ensue.
The problem, however, is that over time this sets up a weakening of the brain that means that it becomes progressively harder to break the habit. In my own household, I found that it has taken a great deal of work on MY part to create an atmosphere in which my husband felt safe to be honest with me and stop lying. Our years of struggle didn’t help, as he was ‘trained’ to be easily triggered.
Why should I be partially responsible for helping my husband learn that honesty is the best policy? In our case, my husband simply got tired of fighting me…it was easier to ‘smooth things over’ and exit the scene than deal with me. That makes me partially responsible for our situation.
Yep, it’s his lying and he’s responsible for fixing the issue. But I (and you) can make it easier by creating a safe place to make mistakes and live with ADHD.
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Foundations in Habit Development - (Registration Opens Feb 3) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
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Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
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