I am so so so fed up with this! I don't think H feels good about himself until he can find fault with something I am doing! I NEVER used to second guess things I did until I met him. Now every time he shows up in the kitchen while I'm trying to get something ready I basically freeze and wait for him to leave because no matter what I do he will tell me it needs to be done differently. I don't think he could find anything wrong with what I was doing a few weeks ago but then he just had to turn the burner down EVER so slightly to feel good about himself. We were playing darts at a bar this past weekend and he says to me "When you hand these to me can you PLEASE grab them by the tips so I have something to grab onto?" You are joking right? You are going to berate me for how I am handing you the darts??!! I was winding up the hose yesterday after watering the yard (I apparently watered correctly as I heard no comment on how I was doing it wrong!) but of course he is watching me wind up the hose and goes "Can you PLEASE make the loops longer? You make them so small when you wind it over the holder." Then he proceeds to take it out of my hand and show me how to do it like I am a total idiot! Why the HELL does it matter if the loops are big or little?? We went to the zoo on Saturday and it is a maze of pathways and I never knew which direction to go. He always wants me to walk ahead of him and so when I take a wrong turn he puts on a big production of "Where are you going? Geez you are going to get us lost?" You know where you are going so why the hell don't you lead! Or do you enjoy berating me for going the wrong way?
And if I hear "What ARE you doing?" from him ONE MORE TIME I am going to lose it! If I walk in and out of a room more than twice while he is sitting there, I'll hear it. If I go out into the garage and don't come out after 30 seconds he'll come in and ask it. If I walk in and out of the house a few times doing chores I'll hear it. It's like if I'm not sitting still in the living room in front of the tv where he knows I am then he's always suspicious of me. I even told him "You should just get that tatooed on your forehead!" which he thought was hilarious! I don't care if he's trying to be funny by saying that all the time, it's not funny. It's annoying as hell to constantly be asked what I'm doing!