Forum topic: Divorced over a year now...

Hi all, your neighborhood minimalist just peeping in and doing a little reading...I hope every one is well...I've been alone over a year now...Life has been so peaceful...I've experienced several different emotions as it relates to my ex...Great relief, a little guilt, (I was sure my life would never matter again in many ways) I've also missed mothering her (Co-dependent)...We ran into each other 4 or 5 times at grand children's sporting events, and we both were at Christmas dinner at my daughters home....It's been very cordial...Nothing seems out of place in either of our lives...(She lived single w/ me, so no change for her, and all the years of abandonment I had accepted long ago)...I'm spent the first 7 months cleaning, and painting my house, cabinets etc...New deck, new roof, floors etc...It was good therapy for me...I reached out an attempting to help her by blowing the leaves off her roof...Several days later she said, yes thanks...So I did that...I also asked her at one of the grandchildren's games, if I killed an extra deer would she want one ground into burger? (She rolled her eyes and nodded a big yes, she had been use to venison (instead of beef) for the 18 years we were married, and she loves it)...So I got her one and got it processed, she took three week or so to reply to the email....So come to find out she is laid up in a cast..(I was told she was tempted to contact me, only because she needed me of course, but, her therapist/counselor told her not to)...She has an ankle issue I understand...My daughter told me...So she finally let me bring the deer over...She put a cooler on the front porch, for me to put it in, and put the processing fee inside it, so I did...It was a little hard on me to know she was having to get around in that cast alone:(...But, I think it can only help her to be an adult w/ no one to use...I feel for her though, she went right back to excessive hoarding and her DIL told my Stepson, she was not bringing her children into that mess for Christmas... (Boundaries) So she rushed and rented a cabin at one of the state parks for them all to gather for a few days after Christmas...Some of the very people she built her life around instead her husband...Funny how things work out...

I have a friend, she and I have done some friend things...I help her w/ guy stuff...She works from home, and we enjoy each other's company on occasion...Her ex was a narc., hadn't worked in 10 years or so, and was an alcoholic and she is sure he cheated on her...She is very scarred, and say's she will never remarry...The longer I'm alone the more I'm thinking maybe I want either...My life is peaceful and free of any chaos or drama...(I've gained all my weight back that I lost last summer) I have married friends I do things with, they would like me to meet someone...But, to be honest, other than my sweet friend, I have no interest...I talk to one girl on the phone and text, but, we are just old friends from school...I offered to take her to dinner, but, she say's she wants to, but, I think she just likes to talk...(she keeps saying she if fat, women worry about such I guess)  lol...

I really hope life is going great for everyone! I think about you guy's often...After 12 years of sharing here, (the only people who has really ever truly understood) it's little like home here...<3

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