I am even getting sick of myself for all the complaining I feel like doing. If I'd only get a break . . . .
My husband has always had issues with impulse buying. It was literally one day before our wedding that I learned he had a bankruptcy in his past. Big surprise (sarcasm). We have separate bank accounts because I do not trust him with money.
He complains that I "do research" before making bigger purchases. That annoys him. Sensibility annoys him. He was upset that I insisted on a sensible washer and dryer for a new house rather than spend the $$$ on state-of-the-art beautiful machines we've had at other homes (and never learned the purpose of all the features).
He purchased a "fun car" about two years ago without mentioning a word to me. Unfortunately, his "fun car" is a vehicle I am extremely uncomfortable riding in. It is a "summertime vehicle" only, sits very low to the ground, it's very tiny, and I honestly do not feel safe in it at all (especially the way he drives it). I have no idea how much he spent, and I don't want to know, but the car makes it out of the garage about three times a year. Yesterday, we finally talked about him selling it. I told him I don't want to be burdened with his vehicle debt or selling his vehicles if he goes before I do. He purchased a practical vehicle a few years earlier and paid extra to have all kinds of alterations made to it, then he impulsively traded it in for a very expensive gas guzzling truck. We do not need a truck.
I feel like auto dealers (and others) just love it when they see him coming.
Without mentioning anything to me, he purchased a $5k riding mower two years ago. The first mowing season, something went wrong and it died in our backyard. It was under warranty, which you think my husband would have dealt with, but instead we called a repair guy (who I contacted) to come out and fix it. We're now into the second mowing season and have already spent money on one so-called repair only to have the mower stuck (it won't move) outside of our garage right now. I looked up reviews of this thing, and they're all around 1.5 stars. That was through a simple Google search that he couldn't bother to do before paying the $5k.
I am so incredibly frustrated by this kind of thing, by the constant irresponsible purchases, from an overabundance of bath towels (yes, I know, weird) to excessive wall decor (we only have so much wall space) to a vehicle we don't use and now a $5k riding mower that doesn't work 50% of the time.
Do I demand to be informed of planned purchases? Do we sit down with a budget sheet in front of us? I don't know what to do. My pleas to him to stop buying go ignored. It's gotten out of control.
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