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Hi all, your neighborhood minimalist just peeping in and doing a little reading...I hope every one is well...I've been alone over a year now...Life has been so peaceful...I've experienced several different emotions as it relates to my ex...Great relief, a little guilt, (I was sure my life would never matter again in many ways) I've also missed mothering her (Co-dependent)...We ran into each other 4 or 5 times at grand children's sporting events, and we both were at Christmas dinner at my daughters home....It's been very cordial...Nothing seems out of place in either of our lives...(She

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Husband recently diagnosed when our relationship hit rock bottom. 
He’s getting support but as a couple we are not. We’ve tried a couple of local counsellors all supposedly ADHD qualified but they say things like “you tell me how you would like this to go” “you set the agenda”

We don’t know as we’ve not been here before. We are both busy professionals and we want some structure in the counselling (like there is in Melissa’s book and like she speaks about)

Content Warning: Contains references to suicide.

"Insidious..... describes something harmful .....often appearing harmless at first. It implies a subtle, long-term, and cumulative negative effect." Meriman / Webster 

I am brand new to this site and am hoping for some clarity and help as I continue to navigate my long term marriage to a man with ADHD (diagnosed). 

We're getting ready to 'celebrate' 50 years of marriage. I am frankly amazed that I've stuck it out this long!

Just getting starting on the journey of ADHD diagnosis for my husband. Married 16 years and almost divorced often in the past 10. Wonderful, caring, kind man, just didn't know he had ADHD. Just started Melissa's book and it's like others have said, like someone is reading from our lives. But a few chapters in and I'm wondering, do I, as the non-ADHD partner, have to be responsible forever? I tried to find the exact part I was just reading but couldn't, but it was something like, "putting a note in your partner's lunch box to remind them of a meeting, making lists for them", etc.

Hi, I have ADHD, I’ve been browsing the internet and looking for forums that would help, books. Anything to make me “Normal”, and I found this website. Reading these forums really does mess with me. Because I’m having problems with my fiancé, and seeing everyone’s words gets me scared like if I have no cure.

Divorce has left me with a problem and I don’t know how to deal with it. Would be so glad to hear your thoughts on this.

I've come to learn what peace is.... and it's more valuable that I ever imagined.

In my definition; peace is the lack of want or need for anything. And you know it, when you have it.

I may not have: a permanent address. A house full of stuff, a partner to do things with, a lot of money ( very little ), and all the modern technological advances and creature comforts that everyone else may have...

But I do have peace. I want for nothing.

Full stop 

J

Husband and I have been going back to therapy past few weeks, but all appears to be getting worse. He feels as if I only look for ways to be critical and tells me I enjoy pointing out his failings (lack of follow through). I feel as if he continues to apologize for his behavior, but rarely makes the changes necessary to change the behavior. Yesterday was a terrible day. He told me he was hoping things would change 6 months ago (with NO WORD to me), but is now finding out they are not changing and he is considering divorce.

Have tried dating now, because the trauma therapist advises it, however terrifying it is. 

Have been for coffee a couple of times with a man who has his life together and seems decent in every way and also quite enthusiastic about me. But he doesn’t seem to connect with me on that gut level. At least not yet.