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Hi All, I’m new to this site and soooo happy I found it. My husband has add (still waiting for the full diagnosis though). Reading your comments and the blog feels like I’m not the only one struggling to understand what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes it can be so confusing and crazy making I want to go out and never come back!

My husband says he is only taking his medicine for me and if it weren't for me he wouldn't take it. This is heartbreaking. I don't feel like him taking the medicine only for me will ever work right?

I do not need help and I do not need advice, just wish for the whole world to collapse with me. No I do not need hope. Hope hurts. Open heart hurts. Everything hurts. Sometimes for a moment I understand it is me, but the thought is do horrible that I blur and fade it away. I want to scream so hard that everything around would fall but I lost my voice. There's night, and in the morning I will have to face him. I'm sick of fear. If people could die from fear I would be long gone. 
when I met him I wondered why I received such blessing. But that was a curse in disguise. 

Today I hit a huge low.

This is my first post and forgive me if I ramble but I've got no one to share this with.  I met my partner 6 months or so after my first marriage ended in 2007.  He is ten years younger than me, never married (although he had one long term relationship) and no kids.  I have three grown kids and three grandchildren.  We started living together in 2010 after my youngest child moved out on her own.  I noticed a lot of frustrating behaviors, never cleaning up after himself, leaving cupboard and closet doors open, doors unlocked, light on ect and chalked most of it up to the fact that he had nev

This post isn't about add/adhd, personality disorders, bi-polar disease or any other mental, physical or emotional suffering.....It's about Adults, it's about freedom, and being free....Free to take a spouse, to work a job, own a business, to bring innocent children into the world, and parent them...It's about people who live long lives, and survive those lives just fine.....This post is about the responsibility level and attitude of you and your spouse... (two people who chose, and is choosing, to live out their lives together as one flesh)

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I'm new to this forum and have just finished reading Melissa's book on the Effects of ADHD in Marriage.  It was a real eye opener to see both why my husband may have behaved the way he did in our marriage and why I was behaving the way I did in our marriage.

It seems like my husband is changing quite a bit recently-to calm, attentive, supportive, understanding person that's also patient s and not about to blow up if I open my mouth. What caused the change? I'm clueless as we are not talking about " elephant in the room " at all. So, currently, there's nothing to be sad about or wish for. But, I can't stop crying, severely and multiple times a day. Because 10 years together broke me. I desperately want to re commit and enjoy things now , but I'm totally depleted. I have nothing left to put into rebuilding relationship. 

About 8 months ago I discovered this website after googling ADHD issues and marriage.  I have been married to my husband for 7 years.  The first 2 were good and the last 5 have been awful.  I am remarried and my first marraige was 14 years long and to a non ADHD person, but this person was verbally and emotionally abusive and didn't work for many years, so I had to work 60-70 hours with babies.  Anyways - now I am in this marriage where my husband is not verbally abusive and he is pretty supportive of things I want to do - but our marriage is a diaster.

Well, I'm back again.  It seems every 1-2 years things get so bad in our marriage, I have nowhere to go but here.  Then things eventually improve and I feel less of the need to check in... but I always end up back here.  It's the vicious cycle that I'm sure everyone can relate to.  (I'm non-ADHD, husband ADHD.)