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My husband and I have been together almost 19 years and just lastnight absolutely fed up I googled "Why wont my husband help me with chores?" I found this forum and everything I read feels like I'm the one that wrote it. I am in tears to know that my ADHD husband is not lazy and a liar and really does forget. I knew he had ADHD and he is on mess but we just had our first child 21 months ago and I guess that is when I stopped being ok with doing everything. Its too hard now and its getting worse. I have contemplated divorce many times these last few years and feel like a nagging fool.

I am new to this site and have been so bashed by my husband's pastor and brother to believe that I am crazy.  We were married a year ago but my ex never moved in. Every time he did he would have an explosion and take whatever he had at my house and leave usually calling police and telling them all sorts of things like I'm dangerous, I had a gun and I was drunk. Fortunately, the police saw that he was the one that was out of control. But his brother told me to stop all the drama and blamed me for his outpatient hospital treatment last year.

I was going to post this as two separate questions, but they really do overlap, so I apologize for the post length.

I stumbled upon this forum last night when I was searching out the terms "leaves garbage on the counter". I hit a new low these past two days because I'm pregnant with my second child and am a stay-at-home parent to a 2 year old and we were down with a horrible stomach virus. My house is in shambles from the past three days of illness. This is a huge road block to me because my brain becomes foggy when my house is a mess and I can't get any administrative work (taxes) done for our business when I can't concentrate.

So I see that there is a slug box and a big majority of the topics are negative venting. I was wondering if there are any positives as well.It's a little discerning to a new comer to see so many discussions on divorce. Has anyone found a way to make it work with their ADHD spouse?As much as we have been through with his drug abuse and our two children, I would hate to think it was all for nothing because his ADHD issues got in the way.

 

I'm so tired of this battle. Husband gets a big project at work and then I am completely ignored and totally forgotten. He will work 12-14 hour days and never send a text I'm left with 2 kids that I homeschool and a baby. Also, I'm a tax accountant and it is tax season. He always gets worse at tax season. And the cherry on top is now that I am sick he is really abrasive and unapproachable. When he is home he complains about everything. I'm tired. Tired just in general and tired of this game.

I few months ago I just let go of my bitterness and resentment. This has been a huge bonus for us in our marriage. But, that isn't enough for my ADD wife. We haven't had sex in 9 weeks. That is partly due to me not initiating. I had to let go in order to find peace and happiness. So let me explain what is happening and perhaps someone has a suggestion for me to try. 

Today H and I were working at our business.  Afterwards, we had some shopping to do at 2 different stores.  At the first store, we each took our own list and agreed to meet back.  I couldn't find an item so it took me a TINY bit longer...not much longer.   H was livid.  

Hi all,

I have been single for 3 years and during this time I have been involved in 4 relationships. Every relationship has a common theem I will work very hard to get the girl of my dream but as time goes by (4 to 6 months) I will get board with the relationship and brake up. 

I was diagnosed with ADHD 5 years ago and take meds but no counseling. 

I am trying to see if this is related to ADHD or my past marriage (a very bad marriage)

Thanks

Jay