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Makes everything impossible

I'm having a very difficult time with my adhd at home and in general. I find that I'm only likeable in small doses and only when I don't do alot of talking. I used to love being social and would crave people's approval but in the last couple of years I have been very withdrawn. Me and my wife recently moved and I don't know anyone. If I have a problem I only have her to turn to, and if we are having a fight I have no one to turn to. I just feel so alone yet I'm afraid to talk to anyone. I'm just going to disappoint any new friends I make. Just feel so isolated.

Newly Separated

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My husband has ADHD, and is a medical professional...and I have PTSD. I love this man with my whole heart, and am sure he feels the same. However, it became impossible to live together...so we are separated. It's been two months...I'm 600 miles away. What complicated things even further, is I have serious medical issues (two strokes within a year, brain lesions...and on and on). I spent almost 30 years going back an forth overseas across four continents. If there was war, famine, genocide, disease...this is where I could be found.

I forgot

I forgot how helpful..and scary..this site can be. If I am to stay, and not want to run away from my husband, I need to find a middle ground. I thought maybe it would help to get things into perspective..

I feel that my husband is as deserving of love as I am. He is a child of God and deserves love and respect...even when his behavior doesn't earn it.

Just don't understand

Someone explain this to me--my ADHD DH has been working literally 7 days a week from 6am until 10pm.  He has been unemployed since January so these are side jobs, handy man stuff that he is doing.  While I am happy at the money that is coming in and the fact that he is busy and has somewhere to go every day, our two kids miss him terribly.  He himself says how much he misses them.  Side note--he and I are on the verge of divorce, so I don't care when/if he's around, but the kids do.  Today he took a day off.

So tired of it...

Well, as I'm sure you can all tell from my forum name and post topic, I'm at my wits end.  I've been with my fiancé for three years now.  We have a two year old son.  The first year of our relationship was great.  Caring, considerate, and generally awesome.  When my fiancé got pregnant, it slowly started to change.  The first few months with our new baby boy were pretty good.  Yet, of course had the usual issues that arise for new parents.   Sleeplessness, and constant needs of our son left us both very tired.  There was always something to do.  However, at the time we took it pretty well.

How can I approach H about going to his job?

You all know the story by now of my H who won't go to his job but doesn't get fired. He has gone in once in 3 weeks. I know he has been lying to me but have yet to confront him about it. Maybe 2 days a week he simply doesn't go in and then the other 3 he will leave the house but I can tell from phone calls to attendance, his bank account and simply looking at his hours online that he hasn't gone in on those days. Instead he leaves and goes and has breakfast somewhere for a few hours until I leaves for work and then comes home, acting like he's been at work all day.

Going to my diagnosis app today

I'm going to my diagnosis app today. 
I know I have ADHD or feel i do. but am a bit worried that I don't have all the systems.
Actually I might have just found ways in my adult life to take these symptoms into account. 

I clip my key ring to my belt immediately.
I use lists to stay organized

 I'm bit worried, what if I'm miss diagnosed? 
What if i really am selfish and lazy?

I guess I will have to wait and see

Risky Driving by husband

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I am at a loss to get my husband to drive more carefully.  Many times I think that he is truly on "auto-pilot" and

doesn't realize that he is driving recklessly.  He generally doesn't signal and switches lanes on the highway

very frequently.  He always seems to want to "get ahead" of everyone else, even when we are not in a 

hurry.  He passes on a two lane road, many times to get ahead of more than one car.  He occasionally makes

what I consider a dangerous left hand turn (and I am on the passenger side), so I am frightened that either

I'm sick to my stomach and can't concentrate on anything!

I've just had it! H is on day whatever of not going to work. I just looked at his paycheck online for the past two weeks. 8 hours total (not like its a shock because I snooped online at his hours and that's all it was going to be even though it SHOULD be 4 days because that's how many days he left the house in the morning!) and after taxes and what they could salvage for child support payments he ended up with a whopping total of $20.08! He currently has $15 in the bank and that's it. So he is going to live on $35 for the next 2 weeks and try to explain to me why that's all he has!

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