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Hello.  I've never posted here before but I've been reading on this site and others for the last couple of years about ADD/ADHD and it's effects on marriage.  I even have the book.  My husband is undiagnosed but has several signs of ADHD.  Unorganized, speed driven, easily distracted. He said this morning that he wants a divorce.  We have been married for over 6 years.  We are a second marriage with a blended family, children ages 20-30 with four grandchildren from his children.  His struggle with me is that he doesn't feel like that I trust him or that I know him.

I am a 59 year old man, My spouse of 15 years has ADD. I love my wife. She is intelligent, creative, hard working, has a great sense of humor and is very attractive. We met 17 years ago. She has 2 children; a 31 year old daughter who is happily married and lives with her husband in Atlanta and a 23 year old son, who also has ADD and is currently living with us.  When we married, my wife who was previously married had been divorced for about 3 years.

I'm a 35 year old non ADHD wife married to my 41 year old husband, for the past 15 years. We have 5 children 2-16. The past 15 years have been a nightmare. My husband was diagnosed, but refused medication. No drug or alcohol use ever on either of our parts. No cheating in my end ever. He has never been caught.

He's a compulsive liar. Lies about everything and daily.

Says he knows he does bad things but cant stop doing them

he foreclosed on our home. I had NO idea until the sheriff served me papers. 

Hi. Im in my early 20's & have been dating a girl with ADHD. At first I didnt know she had ADHD, but different tendencies kept popping up so I researched the symptoms & realized she had it. She's also since admitted to having it to me. I saw a lot of good in her & I thought a lot of people gave up on her early in life because of something she did not control, so I promised myself I would at least improve her life , even if I eventually lose interest in this relationship. 

I am a newlywed and My husband has adult ADHD, at least that's what we think since he was diagnosed as a child-- reading the book ADHD and it's effects on marriage, almost every page of that book has almost mirrored my own life. Let's just say I get a lot of anxiety reading this book. My husband has not been diagnosed with it as an adult because he has never gone to see a doctor and talk to them about it. And now that we have health insurance finally, he still is doing what he wants to do, at his own pace--meaning getting care for himself.

The way my husband would react to certain questions i have for him really makes me wonder 'IF' he is lying,i am not a professional and i can SEE right through this man! some on here should really give me an in put after i am finish detailing this out..

right,so we separated for a week or so,after this short separation we decided to try once more.Most here already know my situation, for the new ones i would re-write it as short as i can.

If my bf takes something I am saying as criticism, the focus turns from the issue I brought up and my feelings about it to his feelings of being criticized and telling me how wrong I am. He has a situation-specific rationalization for everything he does, but sometimes he is the first to criticize me if he thinks I am affecting his time or money. Then if my feelings disagree with his intentions or recollection of what happened, my feelings are wrong.

My (suspected) ADD husband is so eager to impress and please everyone, and can charm himself out of (or into) any situation.  But when it comes to me, it feels like he doesn't care at all.  He has no interest in anything I say, and will actually walk away from me when I am in the middle of telling him something.  He has, on occasion even walked out of the house while I was in mid-sentence.  Today he actually closed the door of the room he was in, so I could not talk to him from the next room.

We had been planning to take a vacation together in the summer, but he said he wanted to wait until November so he could have more time off. November was my thirtieth birthday, so I thought that would be perfect to celebrate. In October, I told him to give me his share of the money for the vacation and after much prodding, he did. I told him if he didn’t want to go, he didn’t have to. He told me he’d give me the money after he asked for the time off.