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A recent conversation with my SO has got me thinking. We didn't see eye to eye on something that got me wondering why?

When one, or both, of your parents have Narcissist tendencies, a child has little choice but to endure the abuse.  You are a victim, in the truest sense of the word.

As an adult, you can always leave your situation. You do not have to stay and tolerate abuse, it is your choice....you are not a victim, in the truest sense of the word.

Anyone here read this book? It's been recommended but im finding it hard to get through, not sure if it's good to for people like a non-Adhd spouse. 

So it's looking like our 11 year old might have autism and NOT ADHD like we previously suspected. They are awaiting reports from us soon and to be honest, I'm kinda shocked. Although when I have prolonged engagement with my husband, it's not that shocking as much because I long suspected my spouse might be AuADHD (not sure that's how u type it). 

Not looking for skeptical diagnosis but just seeing if anyone else in the same boat?? I have NO CLUE what next step to begin with. 

My kid triggers my husband, my husband is not a functional human being. 

For a while now the thought of shame has come up. 

It seems to me life with an ADD partner has been shaped to a great extent by shame. My ex avoiding everything that was out of his reach made the world small for us. It was embarrassing. Even though I didn’t realize it at the time, it was the reason socializing with others was so awkward.

Hello; My fiance and I have gone our separate ways.  I am harboring so much anger because of the past 8 years together, engaged for almost 3 years.  We called our wedding off 3 months before the wedding as my fiance was just diagnosed ADHD and possibly bipolar.  We both agreed that seeking help for his health superceded a wedding.

This is not some new revelation, but just a reminder. Again, just sharing something I feel is important.

I keep bringing myself back to Echart Tolle's revelation, in the moment he had his epiphany. This also, deals with the "us and them" dichotomy.

At his lowest state, next to suicide, he thought " I can't live with myself ". Then he thought, "who is this "self" I can't live with?"

In essence, he's just "one" person, who's this extra thing, construct, story, idea, or person, who's not himself? Imagination? 

non-ADHD partner here (well, at least I think so!) 

I've ordered Melissa's book, which I believe has some information about my question, but while I'm waiting for it to arrive, I thought I'd ask here. 

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Whether or not my SO ( might ) have BPD, an explanation I found, fits our pattern very well. I also found my contribution which seems to make perfect sense.

Key words:

Fear of engulmemt vs engulmemt. 

First, I want to explain ( lol ) that there's a   difference between : over sharing, verbal processing ( repeating stories that are complaint in nature ie: venting ) and over explaining ...which is what I do constantly.