My husband has ADHD that he is not being treated for/managing. I find myself reading all of the books and listening to all of the podcasts, trying to understand what is going on and how I can help (I have some anxiety based attachment issues) but felt I needed some support from this group and others who might be feeling what I’m feeling.
His mood swings are so catastrophic that I can’t keep up. Yesterday he was listing all of the things he’d like to do to fix up our house (our first house that we moved into <1 year ago), and today he says he can’t do any of them and that he should never have bought a house. He says he wishes I wasn’t here for him because then he could just disappear and no one would care. He had a job interview yesterday that he was excited about, and today he says he won’t take the job of it’s offered. He wanted it because it pays more but now says he has no money… which could be fixed by taking the job.
What is real? I don’t know what to think or what to base any of my thoughts on anymore.
Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation or feeling? I have resentment building and I don’t know which way to turn because I don’t know if he’s just giving up on our life and marriage or if it’s all a knee jerk reaction??
Thank you soooo much in advance for any input.
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