Joy Snacking

ADHD & Marriage News - March 15, 2023

Quote of the Week

“Here’s an antidote to an ever-stressful, busy, and uncertain world.  Try finding and savoring little bites of joy in your day.  I call them “joy” snacks.”

-Richard Sima, Washington Post (11/17/22)

Joy Snacking

Mindfulness is well known to improve mental health, but I had never thought of it in these words.  And, truth be told, joy snacking sounds so much more fun than setting up a mindfulness practice!

So I started joy snacking and love it!  You might, too.

What moments give you joy is personal, but here is one example of how this works.  In the mornings my cat, Pepper, likes to jump in my lap as I’m finishing my breakfast.  In the past I’ve petted him a little, then put him off my lap to continue with my day.  Now I joy snack and spend several minutes noticing how lovely his loud purring is (and how happy it makes me!), the feel of his fur, the pleasure he shows at being with me. Sometimes I tell him “This is a great joy snack!  Thank you!”  Feeling gratitude in the moment makes it all the better.

There are other moments I’m much more likely to notice than before I started thinking about joy snacking.  Really, these little snacks make my days sweeter.  Which, of course, is the point.

What joy snacks might be in your life?



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MONDAY, March 13:  Session 1: Optimizing ADHD treatment; Understanding the differences between you
TUESDAY, March 21: Session 2: Interpreting ADHD symptoms; Symptom/response/response cycles & how to interrupt them; Defensiveness & anger intro 

Tues, March 28:        *Break (No live lesson)  Please put in your calendars for catch up work
Tues, April 4:             Session 3: Getting out of parent/child dynamics; The healing process; Setting boundaries
Tues, April 11:           Session 4: NEW SESSION IN 2023!  Dealing with strong emotions in ADHD-impacted relationships
Tues, April 18:           Session 5: Communication strategies that work
Tues, April 25:           Session 6: Getting away from fights and chore wars; Bonus video: Getting organized with ADHD–the emotional issues plus what works 

Tues, May 2:              Session 7: Difficult to understand behaviors:  The skinny on lying, affairs, pornography, and more
MONDAY, May 8:        Session 8: Rebuilding trust; the science of finding joy in your ADHD-impacted relationship
TUESDAY, May 16:     Session 9: Conflict intimacy; sex and desire; setting personal boundaries; next steps

- For a more detailed curriculumgo to this page.

Resources For those in relationships impacted by ADHD


ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? My highly acclaimed 8-session Zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The next live session STARTED March 13, 2023.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group - Be part of a community exploring similar issues, successes and struggles and find new, effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.


How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD

Downloadable chapters of my books;

A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;

A large number of blog posts on various topics;




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