“The very act of saying yes is not just life-changing, it is life-saving. The years of saying no were, for me, an easy withdrawal from the world. A way to disappear.
Saying yes is courage. Saying yes is the sun. Saying yes is life…"
- Rhonda Rhimes, author of A Year of Yes
I remember my own years of saying ‘no.’ I felt confined. I felt like the ‘bad guy’ in the family. My kids even joked about ‘mean mom coming out of the glove compartment’ one day in the car when I was particularly cranky.
You don’t have to say ‘yes’ all the time, as Rhimes did for her book experiment. But what would happen if you said ‘yes’ 50% more?
And, no, I’m not talking about saying yes to anything that puts you or your family in danger, or that will ruin you financially. I’m not suggesting you become stupid…only more open to the possibilities that life sends your way.
Here’s what I discovered when I started to say ‘yes’ much more often. ‘No’ was getting in my way. ‘No’ took away my power. ‘No’ kept me isolated.
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