Say Yes

ADHD & Marriage News - January 2, 2019

Quote of the Week

“The very act of saying yes is not just life-changing, it is life-saving.  The years of saying no were, for me, an easy withdrawal from the world.  A way to disappear.

Saying yes is courage.  Saying yes is the sun.  Saying yes is life…"

- Rhonda Rhimes, author of A Year of Yes 

Say Yes

I remember my own years of saying ‘no.’  I felt confined.  I felt like the ‘bad guy’ in the family.  My kids even joked about ‘mean mom coming out of the glove compartment’ one day in the car when I was particularly cranky.

You don’t have to say ‘yes’ all the time, as Rhimes did for her book experiment.  But what would happen if you said ‘yes’ 50% more?

And, no, I’m not talking about saying yes to anything that puts you or your family in danger, or that will ruin you financially.  I’m not suggesting you become stupid…only more open to the possibilities that life sends your way.

Here’s what I discovered when I started to say ‘yes’ much more often.  ‘No’ was getting in my way.  ‘No’ took away my power.  ‘No’ kept me isolated.

I dare you – try it!


Say YES to a better relationship in 2019 - and beyond. My January seminar and support groups will transform your relationship. ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Live Seminar starts January 15, 2019. A support group for Non-ADHD partners starts TOMORROW January 3rd; the diminishing Anger tele-seminar starts TOMORROW January 3rd

For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at, including free: Online treatment overview; Downloadable chapters of my books; A community forum with other couples facing similar issues; A large number of blog posts on various topics; Referrals. Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. can literally change your life!  

Seminars and Groups

Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The Live session starts January 15, 2019.

Is your relationship in pretty good shape but you'd love to feel closer? Consider my self-study seminar Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship.

Is Anger an unwanted contributor in your relationship? The next session of How to Diminish Anger in Your Relationship starts January 3, 2019.

Support Tele-groups - Be part of a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship

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