ADHD and Marriage Blog

Looking at the Roots of Your Emotions

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 02/11/2008.

At its worst, my ADD marriage was filled with swirling, extreme emotions – hope, anxiety, depression, anger, frustration.  These were overwhelming and make me feel hopeless until I started addressing these emotions at their most basic roots.  Perhaps, with a few of the ideas I put down here, you’ll be able to start sorting out – and improving – some of the most troubling emotions you feel in your own relationship.

Want to Find Out What It's Like to Have ADD?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/31/2008.

There is a terrific blog out there that can provide lots of insight into what it's like to have ADD - and that provides very thoughtful ideas for how to get the most out of ADD.  The author, Jennifer Koretsky, has ADD and is the editor of ADDA's newsletter.  Read today's post, What Won't You Do to Get the Job Done? to get a flavor for how she might contribute to your own insights about ADD in yourself or your spouse.

Arguing Over Little Things in ADHD Marriages

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/29/2008.

Do you have the experience where everything you do seems to end in conflict?  Are you in the middle of a conversation and suddenly your spouse is going on and on about how you used the wrong word?  One of our readers wrote about it this way: "the entire conversation is ignored and the one word is focused on, whether it be to accuse me of changing facts, or blaming her for something, taking a stab at me or just flat out missing the point...there is so much anger and unhappiness ... I have stopped talking since everything I say gets disected and used against me in some way."

ADHD and Marriage - Not All Problems are Due to ADD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/28/2008.

There is now a wealth of information in the forum and blog posts here about what types of issues are related to ADD.  A recent post reminded me that it also makes sense to focus a bit (pun intended) on the fact that not all marital issues can be ascribed to ADD (and the inverse, which I wrote about in my "Ode" post that some wonderful things in a relationship can be directly attributed to ADD characteristics).  Here is the post that brought this to mind and my response:

ADD Relationships: Ode to My ADD Friends and Family

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/17/2008.

It's too easy to think that ADD relationships are most often negative or hard.  They can be, but don't have to be - which is what this blog is all about.  Here's a reflection on the many really wonderful things that my husband’s and my daughter’s ADD bring to our family.  I’ve outlined just a few of them below.  Perhaps, after reading this, you’ll share some of the joy that ADD brings to your life with readers of this blog.

Financial Tips for Keeping ADHD People Organized

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/16/2008.

Do you have trouble paying your bills on time and keeping your finances organized? This post from our forum on what to do about this is so good that I wanted to make sure everyone saw it.  Go to this link to learn tricks for improving your bill paying.

Marriage and ADHD and What Works Best

Submitted by NedHallowell on 01/11/2008.

Hi - Ned Hallowell here.  I wanted to post an entry about what I think works best in a marriage where one or both partners have ADHD.  The key to it all is insight and empathy.  

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