ADHD and Marriage Blog

ADHD Meds Can Help Your Relationship – But He May Not Realize It!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/14/2007.

Medications sure can help your relationship – as can non-medicinal treatments!  But the spouse with the ADHD may not realize it – that’s where you need to give him (or her) some constructive feedback.  This comment is typical of what happens:

Great Tips for Getting Going at Work with ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/09/2007.

In a blog about ADHD and marriage, it’s all too easy to “hyperfocus” on the ins and outs of relationships, without looking at some more general issues that many have with ADHD.  We got this post recently from a man who is having trouble focusing at work.  So, for all of you who have trouble getting going at work, here are some tips:

Her Relationship in Tatters, Husband “Unrecognizable” – She Feels as if it Was “Bait and Switch”

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/01/2007.

A woman who has been married for 3 years to a man who was diagnosed with ADD after they got married, has taken the time to write to me quite a bit about her situation.  It is one that I recognize, as it closely mirrors the situation I had in the beginning of my own marriage.  One of the key issues is that she and her husband had a wonderful courtship, during which he “hyperfocused” on her (though neither knew that this was the case as it was happening).  Now she is desperate to feel loved and in the kind of relationship her courtship had led her to expect, but she finds her spouse unrecognizable.  Not only does he not connect with her, but he dismisses her concerns about their lack of connection, leaving her frequently in tears.  She is “in shock because I feel as if the person I fell in love with doesn’t exist”.

Overcoming Defensiveness in Your ADHD Marriage

Submitted by WalterSherburne on 10/22/2007.

We had this post from one of our readers and wanted to write a bit in response about the defensiveness many men feel when approached about having ADHD and/or going on medication.  The post:

Women with ADD - Constant Communication May Miss Target

Submitted by SariSolden on 10/11/2007.

Sari Solden discusses ways in which individuals with ADHD can more effectively communicate with their partners.

ADHD Marriage: Do I Stay or Leave?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 10/09/2007.

We had a long post (and follow-up email) from a woman who is at her wits end about how to resolve the “do I stay or leave?” question.  She cares for her husband, but he is driving her crazy and he impacts her life so negatively that she was depressed and on medications for a while.  A couple of people have already responded with supportive advice, so check out the comments, but here is the original message and our thoughts:

ADHD Marriage - I'm "Tired Out"

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 10/03/2007.

We received this question from a reader:

"How can an ADHD affected spouse get a job and hold it to earn a living if he cannot find his keys/wallet/cellphone etc? How can a spouse NOT be tired out by repeated same scenarios of disorder and chaos repeatedly discussed and never changing?"

These are questions that cut to the heart of the long-term ADHD relationship.  I would like to address the non-ADHD spouse first, then circle back to the ADHD spouse.

 

 

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