Hi. My adhd husband just picked me up from work. He was happy and everything was good. I asked him to go into a store to pick up a case of aluminum tins Bec I was eating lunch in the car. He went in happily and came out cursing on the top of his lungs in the parking lot, screaming in front of people and slams the car door shut as he came in the car. Saying this is the last time he is buying tins Bec it’s $45 a box. I screamed saying what’s wrong with you.why are reacting like this. He told me to shut up! And I said No you should’ve bought pyrexes. Such a dumb thing was turned into a huge fight. I am shaking and scarred. As usual. He hasn’t apologized yet. Sees nothing wrong with his behavior. I haven’t said a word in the past 2 hours and I’m resting in my bed traumatized. Crying. Not knowing why my life is so hard. It was such a nice calm day and just like that -bam! Each time he acts this way I disconnect more and more.
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I hear you
Hi!
New here and wanting to say… I stumbled on this site just after going through an exact “happy chat direct road to screaming” event with my ADHD partner, and I’m currently turning circle in my neighborhood because I felt I needed to leave the house. I don’t know what to say but I hear you and I’m sorry you’re feeling so down and disconnected. These events, however frequent or rare always remind me I have to walk on eggshell and it’s so damn tiresome.
So embarrassing
Sorry for this, I know how it feels. My undiagnosed ADHD husband did something similar on my birthday after having a very nice dinner. He just went out of control out of nowhere when I mentioned that there was a new a traffic pattern on the road ahead. I thought he would have preferred to take an alternate route before getting stuck without any other options. But he went off the rails without any provocation, screaming at me because "he has been driving for xx years and doesn't need to be told anything". I said I was giving him information he was likely unaware of and if I was with a friend I would have mentioned the same thing to give them a heads up. Only thing is a friend would have politely thanked me and said something like I think I'd rather go this way or taken the alternative route. All this over an innocuous comment, but I am the problem?!
I'm so sorry you're going
I'm so sorry you're going through this — no one deserves to feel unsafe or scared in their own relationship. Your feelings are completely valid, and it's okay to acknowledge how deeply this is affecting you. Please take care of yourself and consider reaching out to someone you trust or a professional who can support you through this.
You Deserve Safety and Support — Your Feelings Matter
I'm so sorry you're going through this — no one deserves to feel unsafe or scared in their own relationship. Your feelings are completely valid, and it's okay to acknowledge how deeply this is affecting you. Please take care of yourself and consider reaching out to someone you trust or a professional who can support you through this. is comment ka tital kya do '