I'm new here, and almost finished reading your book The ADHD Affect on Marriage. It has been hopeful. My partner has (we think) ADHD and perhaps Autism. We've been together 9 years and are in our 60s. I felt validated reading the stories of frustration and anger.
There was a question raised about getting back to the original love you felt.... I'm struggling as to whether I actually felt that and if I want it. I have lost almost all respect for my partner, and am just fed up.
I will read the recoomended book about Letting Go and Forgiving, because I don't want to live angry and frustrated for the rest of my life and want to take control and responsibility for myself.
I am finally writing, because I'm in the last chapter about Reignighting Romance, and I have a different experience. My partner desperately wants to be loved and desired - and would be very happy to be intimate - a lot! We suffer from the Parent Child dynamic and I just don't have an interest. I don't want him to pay more attention to me!
Thankfully he is willing to look into treatment - and so am I... but I'm not sure I really want to stay in the relationship.... We need to find a good ADHD psychiatrist in the UK.
I'm interested in any feedback or suggestions. I will take responsibility for myself.
Thank you for any comments!
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Don't Assume
Don't assume that what a person does is intentional or even that they'reaware of what they're doing. Or maybe better, has the capacity in their ability to do what you do.
full stop: