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Hi all, I'm new to this group but after reading so many of the forums I feel so much better already. I finally feel like I'm not alone! 

Happy Holidays everyone! I removed my post - I found an article about narcissistic parents that seemed to help.

What a combination. My first time here and posting. All this in me seems to be getting worse with age. Need some help figuring out what to do. There is just so much to talk about but I can't type fast enough. I am having a real difficult time seperating me from the ADHD. I feel like I am too old to have this happen to me now.

Hey there - once I have been a happy person, secure and valued, relaxed and energetic. But, that is a long long time ago. My husband and me are separated since nearly three month now and finally I do start to feel better, bit by bit. Get to see that I am not insane, that I do not need to get an psychiatric evaluation done. Honestly, without my parents I would have totally lost it. My husband tries/tried to tell me that I am the reason why he had repeatedly anger outbursts these last month. I am frustrating him, I do trigger him et c.

Last night was an all too familiar scene.  We were at our daughter's high school basketball game and my husband made a scene.  I wanted to die. Here's the set up: it was a varsity basketball game and our daughter plays JV.  JV players have to also dress and sit for Varsity, although no playing time is guaranteed.  The team was winning 60 - 30 and arguably the coach should have put in the second string of girls (no argument there).  My husband became agitated about our daughter not getting playing time and started yelling "Hey coach, time to clear the bench!"  As parents all turned to stare,

On a positive note had a good time with my family last night. I shoveled the driveway until my two year old started crying with cold hands, and joked with the wife. Had a great time. Just a simple, quiet, honest night. :)

The past two nights had little sleep. Work the past two days has been difficult as weather has complicated our operations, compiled with people returning to work after a holiday. 

I really, really want to shout at the frustration. 

I know I am liable for my outbursts. I will do my best to not take my frustrations out on my coworkers or loved ones. 

Just needed to vent and breathe. 

I try to communicate properly but the lack of forethought in my words, or the manner in which I inflect them, usually falls flat and leaves me with a my foot in my mouth, and we have a fit. I am angry how I expressed myself, my wife - the non-ADHD person, is sensitive because she is hurt and feels like she did something WRONG, and this instance ruins our entire day. 

If we could go on the a game show, teh way we communicate, would fail in 20 seconds. 

My wife and I have different energy levels. This is established. When I clean, its not perfect but I work till I drop. When my wife cleans - she cleans like you're getting your teeth cleaned - thorough. but she doesn't clean often. I pick up for us, pick up some of her stuff, and I have to remember she does the appointment making, bookkeeping, child disciplining, etc. 

The fact she doesn't put her dishes in the dishwasher, SHOULDN'T drive me crazy but does. I keep on his NEGATIVE kick and forget how loving my wife is. 

My wife is looking to get divorced after five years of marriage. She says I get focused on a task or a slight, become frustrated - voice a passive aggressive statement or a mean comment, then once that is spouted - I'm fine. But I leave her hurting in the meantime. 

The stimulus creating the frustration is unimportant - the fact that I take out my anger on my wife, is horrid. 

I want to be clear - I do not physically harm anyone, only with my mouth. 

I need to control it better.