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My partner and I have been together for 15 years and the last five have been extremely hard.  I have contemplated leaving many times.  I hate how I feel around him.  There is very little effort, little sharing of partnership, a lot of similarities to what I have been reading on this site.  What I would like to know, is it better for those who have left?  Is it better for you mentally?  Better for your children?  I so want to do the right thing and I do love my partner but his ADHD is destroying me and I don't know how long I can continue to endure it.

If you are in the mood for humor.  I just saw this rerun of Frazier for the first time.  I almost pee'd.  Of course I am personally invested in someone who is a tad bit this way herself which is why this is so funny to me.  Anyway...for what it's worth.  I thought it was good for a laugh if you needed one.  Enjoy.

here's the clip   https://youtu.be/7XN-J_0nYhI

J

Hi everybody, and thanks so much for your time and emotional support.  As I stated earlier in my other post, I am not sure what the diagnosis would be for my chronically angry BF, but now that he has been out of the house for a few days, I am starting to worry and feel guilty about my tough love approach of "get therapy or get out!" approach to his problems.

In reading posts it occurs to me that some of us have left the ADHD relationship but are still searching for a way to recover from the impact it had on our lives.  Anyone else feel the same?

Typical back story of adhd relationship. I was diagnosed just over a year ago. About 8.5ish years into a marraige ravaged by undiagnosed adhd.  My wife looks at me with a mixture of hate / coldness. I am constantly being called names. Im told that i am a failure, worthless and at this point only good for a paycheck. Constant fighting, that ends with me crying because"im too emotional". Im always reminded that i personally and single handedly ruined the marraige/ her life.

Hi 

I am new, I am reading the book on Marriage and ADHD. Great book and very helpful. I have ADHD and my wife and I only found out 4 years ago with 8 years together not knowing about it. Since I found out I have had two heart surgeries. This only happened after the tests for me to take meds for my ADHD. I could not take the meds until after my second operation. My wife has been through hell,with me and she is my world and I love her deeply. I never thought I would be in this position considering I hated relationships because of my ADHD.

H is taking dexamphetamines under the supervision of a psychiatrist for ADD and depression. He started about 14 months ago. If he doesn't monitor how many he is taking he starts to show paranoia and  anger - which almost brought our marriage undone. He has settled down now and has been regular in taking them. The last few weeks have been busy and it appears he has been erratic in taking his medications - possibly not taking his Prozac and increasing his dexis.

So I have been posting here for a long time and reading all the post for a long time and I am starting to wonder if DHs ADHD is not the issue, we just have a crummy marriage that has run its course.  It's been 20 years.  Maybe that's all we have in us.  I just don't know what to say or do any more.  DH comes and goes as he pleases, sometimes tells me when he is coming home, sometimes not.  Today he was supposed to be home by 4:30 and instead walked in at 7:45, but only because he had taken his car to have a recall fixed.  So how do I get mad at that??