In my endless quest to accept DH and the way he ACTUALLY is, not the way I WISH him to be, I have been thinking a lot about the stuff that makes me happy and trying to do those things more often. Plus the fact that he travels Monday through Friday means I have a lot of time to do things on my own.
Based on what little I've read, there are more men with ADHD than women. I guess that makes me a minority, any other men out there? I am really struggling. I have been married for almost 11 years, have a stepdaughter and two sons. We went to counseling last summer because I had threatened to leave if our non-existent, no wait, we did it three times in 2013 (and yes, I kept track!), sex life didn't improve. At the first session, we were talking through some issues and counselor says to my wife, "Have you been tested for ADD?" So there goes anything I was hoping to gain from counseling
Two weeks ago my ADHD husband woke me up at 2 a.m. to tell me that he had cheated on me two days prior. He says that he was very lonely, and he had been feeling this way for a few months – he says he missed me and the way our relationship was before we had our baby (we have an 18-month-old daughter).
First time here and I am at my wits end.
I have been married to my ADHD husband for almost 2 years now. We were friends for 30 years and engaged for a year. He only recently was diagnosed with ADHD last year and is on medication, though it's not helping.
today I turn the tables on my bad habits and am going through all my unwanted stuff and getting rid of it. I'm a little pissed off right now after my wife left for a meeting because when she gets back...she isn't going to like the mess I made. What I'm really angry is having to clean up her mess this time but its good anger and I'm motivated with a renewed spirit and full of energy! I'm not afraid if she likes it or not!! It will be alright though because I love it that much.
prepare to come about.....HARD TO LEE!!!
Newbie here, I have looked and read through during hard times but today seems different. I came home from a double stressful shift at work, my ADHD spouse has cabin fever and instead of finding himself something to do waits for me to arrive home. He then gets even more cranky when he realises that he messed up with money AGAIN so we cnt actually go and so anything. All I want to do is come home, relax and have a "normal" evening. I am so tired. Why can't he just occupy himself without needing to have such a big focus on spending money??? Rant over!
Last night, when we went to bed, my ADHD husband suddenly said something to me "out of the blue", which first surprised me, then made me cry. It made me cry because I had longed to hear those words for over 32 years, and NOW he had come to a realization of something SO important. It was touching, and hurtful at the same time. But, I'm STILL glad he said it. It's so NICE to hear him say things that are REAL, and not "deflection", or denial, or dismissal.
I'm so glad to have found this place. I am 31 yrs old, married and have 3 kids, expecting #4. I just found out this year that I have ADD. I haven't been officially diagnosed yet, as I don't have the money to get seen yet, but I know I would be diagnosed with no problem. I had always dismissed ADD as being a childhood condition that only really existed in people's heads. Then I heard a couple women talking about their ADD symptoms and it caused me to start thinking about it. I did lots of research and now I pretty much have an explanation for my entire child and adulthood.
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