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I've been ready for years - we've been together for 16 years - and I know the mutually beneficial portion of our relationship ended at least 6 years ago. So I've been thinking about it for a long while and every time I come to this forum I vow to never be one of those who is writing this thread after 20, 30 or 40 years. But it just seems so unfair to my ADHD partner to leave. It's not like I'm perfect and trouble-free, so why not share our lives together til the end even if we drive each other nuts?

I have searched the internet on the topic of an ADHD parent and their impact on their children. There is plenty about ADHD & marriage but virtually nothing on how ADHD impacts children living with an ADHD parent. From my observation the impact is much like that on the nonADHD spouse, but much worse as children do not have the skills nor understanding on how to deal with the unwarranted anger, criticism and inconsistency in their lives. Has anyone out there found an online recourse or book that covers this topic.

This has become part of my daily existence and has now become my simple philosophy to follow on a daily basis.  It is my bible so to speak since it is such a simple set of rules to follow.  Having ADHD presents a different set of challenges for someone like me and one of them is getting mired down with too much information and being  easily overwhelmed by too much dogmatic thinking in general.  So many opinions, so many different ways to do things and so many different ways to see things?  What is right and what is wrong?  Who knows these answers and who is right?  It can be very confusing

I feel I'm frankly at the point where I am ready to file for divorce.  I feel like I've lost myself.  I think I've felt like that our whole relationship.  I am sick of feeling like I am his mother.  I am sick of my needs always coming last.  I am sick of feeling so alone.  I am sick of feeling unsupported and taken advantage of.  Most of all, I am sick of being lied to.  My husband has a porn addiction.  He is always on the brink of addiction with alcohol or anything else that will "numb the pain."  He hadn't been watching porn (at least to my knowledge) for a four months.  He started watch

I'm new here, so bear with me. I've been in a relationship with my ADHD bf for 11 years. We've had a lot of the common ADHD issues, like communication problems, forgetfulness, failure to follow through etc. But I think the one issue that has been the hardest for me to deal with is lying. I guess I can't really be sure when the lying began, but it started causing problems while we were in college. He would lie about things that I'm guessing a lot of guys lie to their girlfriends about, like drinking too much or hanging out with *certain* people, that I would disapprove of.

Here is an article from Additude magazine about coping techniques for wives with husbands that have ADHD.  http://www.additudemag.com/adhd-web/article/658.html. I hope the link works.  I follow their page on facebook and get really good articles for adults and kids.

What are the options for children and adults when they come to the realization that their day to day lives are being lived in a irresponsible manner?

1) Continue to ignore it. (This is as for as it gets for most who have no mirror i.e. (parent, spouse, teacher's, friends).

Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome.

Wifeafraid, I am so sorry you are going through all these things you listed on your first post. I am starting a new thread after realizing these comments would have hijacked your thread in a different direction.  I hope you find a road to wellness soon and that you doctor is a good one that can help sort things out that is going on with you.  

Hi everyone,

I am a 28yo woman and finally have comes to terms I may have ADHD. But I am so afraid of going to the doctor for fear I will be called an idiot like I have been called my entire life.

My husband made an appointment for me this week knowing I wanted one but was afraid to. I'm hoping if I blurt of everything here first that perhaps someone living this way can tell me if I am just crazy, or realistically may have this condition. I guess so I can calm down a bit for the appointment if that makes any sense at all? lol

Why is it OK for people with ADHD to procrastinate and get distracted the way they do? Why tolerate it? Why stay married to someone who obviously doesn't care enough to change? People without ADHD need to stop tolerating this type of behavior. It is not OK and it is not fair. NON-ADHD people need to take a stand. I believe it is a made up disorder for people who are simply lazy. I don't think it's right that society has come up with an excuse for these people when the rest of us have to suffer. They need to learn to be responsible and society needs to stop enabling them.