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First time here and I am at my wits end.

 

I have been married to my ADHD husband for almost 2 years now. We were friends for 30 years and engaged for a year. He only recently was diagnosed with ADHD last year and is on medication, though it's not helping.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about a month ago. He finally saw a therapist who determined this when I threatened to leave after being fed up with all of his anger and child like behavior. I have a 10 year old boy and 13 year old girl. Both kids dislike being around him, but my daughter really hates him. She has cut herself in the past and had low self esteem. I believe it stems from his anger toward her and lack of being a loving a father. It's taken a toll on all of us. Now that he finally diagnosed he will soon bee prescribed medication, but I feel torn.

today I turn the tables on my bad habits and am going through all my unwanted stuff and getting rid of it.  I'm a little pissed off right now after my wife left for a meeting because when she gets back...she isn't going to like the mess I made. What I'm really angry is having to clean up her mess this time but its good anger and I'm motivated with a renewed spirit and full of energy!  I'm not afraid if she likes it or not!! It will be alright though because I love it that much.

prepare to come about.....HARD TO LEE!!! 

Last night, when we went to bed, my ADHD husband suddenly said something to me "out of the blue", which first surprised me, then made me cry. It made me cry because I had longed to hear those words for over 32 years, and NOW he had come to a realization of something SO important. It was touching, and hurtful at the same time. But, I'm STILL glad he said it. It's so NICE to hear him say things that are REAL, and not "deflection", or denial, or dismissal.

I'm so glad to have found this place. I am 31 yrs old, married and have 3 kids, expecting #4. I just found out this year that I have ADD. I haven't been officially diagnosed yet, as I don't have the money to get seen yet, but I know I would be diagnosed with no problem. I had always dismissed ADD as being a childhood condition that only really existed in people's heads. Then I heard a couple women talking about their ADD symptoms and it caused me to start thinking about it. I did lots of research and now I pretty much have an explanation for my entire child and adulthood.

This may be a dumb question, but I was wondering if there was any particular reason why so many people with ADHD struggle with alcohol and/or alcohol addiction? I know they can tend to have one or several addictions, but alcohol seems to be one that carries over to quite a few who have ADHD. Is it to quiet the mind? My ADHD husband's sister and brother (brother bi-polar and sister and alcoholic/  bi-polar undiagnosed) both had alcohol addictions. My husband is not ADDICTED to alcohol, but there are times I do think he does drink too much.

New to this. Strongly suspect that my husband has ADD or an LD.  Strongly suspect this, based on his behaviour and the behaviour of his relatives. 

I feel so scared. Feel so sorry for DH.  I know he is suffering.  I love him dearly, he is the love of my life.  He is so loving. But many broken promises leave me feeling betrayed. So so scared that if we were to have children, I would have to watch them struggle with the same condition..it would just tear me apart.)  Also scared that I may never have any children, if I end my marriage.  Ashamed. Guilty.

I was hoping to get some feedback from others about possible behavioral changes with ADHD stimulants. Ever since my husband started taking Vyvanse, his behavior is odd. In the morning he's groggy and out of it (more than usual or what is to be expected), but after he takes the meds he is calm and extremely focused and energetic. In the evening, he starts acting agitated, moody, almost paranoid, and...just strange. Up late, writing long letters that don't make sense, pacing, talking to himself, acting secretive and hostile towards me. I think it's the meds that are doing this.